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02 February 2008 @ 04:14 pm
Bad news  
Betty, my stepmom, has a malignant brain tumor, originating in her basal ganglia and spreading. She's been acting strange for about a month now, and this past week her mental state was especially poor - couldn't eat, dress herself, carry on conversation, and did a bunch of random things around the house, forgetting about them.

I'm in Seattle, so all I'm hearing about this is from my dad and sister, Lily. Fortunately, Lily has been around the house to check on her and took her to the ER a few days ago when it was apparent that she couldn't take care of herself. Yesterday is when they found out about the tumor.

Her chances of survival are next to nothing. I don't know if chemo or any other treatment will be able to restore her mental state, so she might be a near-vegetable until she dies.

I'm doing fine, in fact I'm a little disappointed at my lack of emotional involvement in the issue - but it might be because I'm a few states away at this point. On the other hand, my dad and sister who are dealing with it first-hand all the time, are crushed. If she dies there's a chance I'll go on hardship leave. It will also probably put a damper on Spring Break plans, when I was basically planning on hanging out with Shiranne the whole time.

This might also affect my dad and sister financially. Not me since my only support is medical insurance from my dad's job, but they might have to move, deal with selling the house they just spent another few hundred thousand to add an extension to, etc. Intensely horrible experience for the lot of them.
 
 
 
Things could always be worse.lildogg on February 3rd, 2008 01:45 am (UTC)
Since we've last spoken, we three have been trying to be more positive and sympathetic. The more positive atmosphere is helping Betty, who has since done a few chores/said a few things out of her own will. We all need to try to focus on hope and love, instead of fear and anger and self deprecation.
ミルス。Seven-Colored Puppeteer of B u c u r e s t i.miluda on February 3rd, 2008 06:23 am (UTC)
Sometimes you have to see it for yourself to let it affect you.
chelseaisland_fae on February 3rd, 2008 11:26 am (UTC)
That's awful. I'm so sorry.
Miss Maggie Mayhemmsmaggiemayhem on February 3rd, 2008 04:34 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry about that news. It's no good when someone else joins the 'fuck cancer' club.
Sparrowchironsoldier on February 5th, 2008 04:32 pm (UTC)
:( I hope things get as much better as they possibly can.
Justin Boucher: J Creamfranceattack on February 5th, 2008 10:18 pm (UTC)
Ya that really sucks, I don't know how close you are to your step mom, but I hope things turn out all right.