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30 August 2005 @ 08:17 am
Social mandate?  
My sister was telling me yesterday about this girl her age who was going around school gossipping about how she got "sooooo drunk" last weekend and was basically showing off to all her friends. Lily is pretty sure that it was the first time that this girl got drunk. What this girl is doing, at the age of 15, is furthering what I call a social mandate.

ALCOHOL IS NOT A NECESSARY PART OF A PERSON'S LIFE. It might sound weird to you, but it is not. Take a look at this comic. The person in the passenger's seat isn't Conrad. It's EVERYONE. It's fucking EVERYONE, INCLUDING YOU. What is Conrad, as a representation of EVERYONE, doing in this comic? He is also furthering a social mandate, which states that you must drink to be social. He's saying, you can't drop your boundaries or get rid of responsibility or enjoy life without alcohol. If you can't, then why do I do it all the time?

Fine, I'm condescending and taking a holier-than-thou position. Great. Let's start off by saying that I KNOW ABOUT ALCOHOL and I have GOTTEN DRUNK BEFORE. Yes, it made me feel "loose"-er and did everything that alcohol is supposed to do. Was it a necessary element in socializing with those around me? I would have even said "no" if you came up to me at the time(s) and asked me.

But here come more people that are like "oh hey, party time, let's find someone to get us alcohol." I've been a chauffeur many a time in the past, driving my friends around to make use of someone who is of drinking age. Okay maybe the drinking-age people don't really mind enabling people my age - I don't care about the legality, I think a "drinking age" is a dumb rule in a few respects - but still, I can barely stand the fact that people are being used just to gain access to alcohol so the real fun can begin. "We GOTTA get drunk before we can socialize!"

WHO SAYS? The people around you say. Everyone's saying the same thing. Everyone else is drunk, so you've got to get drunk to have fun. By thinking this, YOU'RE the one who is furthering this social mandate. What's worse, alcohol has to be an integral part of courtship in our society - I mean, it HAS to be - because if you're not drunk and the other person is, it's rape. You definitely don't want that to happen, so you HAVE to get drunk so the feeling is mutual. Why don't more people see something wrong with this?

I hope this gives enough reason why I don't drink for fun and why you don't have to either. Besides, most of that shit tastes awful.

Before you say "wow Jeffrey I really respect you, you can handle so much, etc. etc." please look at this comic again. I've heard it. It doesn't mean anything. If you really respected me and saw my viewpoint then maybe you'd try to change something about yourself.
Andyddrmallrat on August 30th, 2005 06:44 pm (UTC)
Well, let me first start off by saying that I agree that alcohol use is a problem amongst...well, everyone.
That having been said, I drink. Often? Not really. Certainly not everytime I socalize. Maybe once a week, at most. There are too many things about alcohol that make it a second choice to, well, my preference. But I'll get into that in a second.
Drinking for me was never that social of an activity. I mean, I don't do it on my own by myself, but I never felt I needed it. It was usually more like "hey, I'm in the privacy of ___'s house, we have some alcohol, and it can be pretty fun to play drinking games or something and bond with friends.
Yea, I said it, alcohol can help you bond with friends. And it's not nearly as shallow as you'd think.
A few weeks ago me and my hands-down two best friends here Cheyne and Charlie went to Cheynes with a bunch of Mickeys (and oh yea I used to agree with you about the taste but I guarantee it's an acquired taste)and got...wasted. we didn't do it to go out and cause trouble, or drive somewhere, or so we could fuck ugly chicks without remorse. But what we did do is go outside, sit under the stars on a hammock, and be more open and honest with each other than ever before. We all learned things about each other and ourselves that really really strengthened our friendship.
Could it have happened without alcohol? Perhaps, but I don't think it would've been the same.
My last point is that marijuana is a much better drug than alcohol. Less side effects, no hangover, lowering of inhibitions but you still retain your judgement. And theres no such thing as marijuana poisining. Furthermore, it is a very social drug that lends itself to many situations. I'll be honest, I smoke almost every day. But it's focus for me has shifted to a more 'nothing-better-to-do' mindset. And I can go without it. And I have. And most of the time I don't buy it. But I digress. My point is, in the stoner subculture there exsists a system of respect, but at the same time, equality. If I may extend this already long comment, let me give you an example (and it may seem rediculous and you may laugh, but this comes straight out of the pages of many peoples lives,including mine).
So, your sitting around your friends (person A) room, person B is showing off their new pipe, person C has some weed, and person D is person B's girlfriend. Well, naturally, a bowl is packed, and the rotation begins. Now, it's customary to just go in a circle (often clockwise) but another scenario is that person C will go first, they have the most essential factor to the equation, then B, then A, then D. You never skip someone unless they ask to be skipped. You don't sit on it too long (camping, to lend a word from CS),and you don't take 2 hits.
I don't really know what my point is other than to give you some insight as to why I believe marijuana is a better social drug than alcohol,and thus it is my preference.
And oh yes, I respect you and such (really, I do).
(Anonymous) on October 16th, 2005 07:17 am (UTC)
why the fuck do you write like that