I don't know what really happened to San Rafael. People moved to Silicon Valley to pursue more lucrative stuff, I grew out of some activities that others kept with, and with others I just lost touch.
Well now that I'm considering the Bay Area as my long term place to live (Seattle and Israel being other places), I have to sort of build that strong social connection back up again, and now I have the time and resources to do it. I'm looking at local blogs, checking out forums to see what people my age are up to, and hell, this is the Bay Area; there's a ton of stuff happening all the time. Not a whole lot in San Rafael, per se, but I moved back to the Bay Area knowing I'd be driving all over the fucking place. A blessing and a curse.
Shiranne's going through a similar thing. Might have to distance herself from some groups of friends, but she's got the gumption to go and make new groups and try new things. My sister posted on her blog that she wishes I'd go do the same thing - and yes, I certainly am.